2 John 1:6

2 John 1:6
And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands.
As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love
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Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Orphan Care Part 2 - Empathy and Compassion

This is a brief conversation my 7 year-old son Adam and I had on the way home from school on Wednesday:

   Adam:  Dad do you know what Empathy and Compassion are?
   Me: Yeah, but what do you think it means?

   Adam:  Well, Empathy is trying to feel and understand what others feel.
   Me: Ok, so what is Compassion?

   Adam:  Compassion is feeling what others feel and then doing something about it like helping them or saying kind things to help them feel better.
   Me:  So how is that like what we will be doing in Honduras? 

   Adam:  Well we visited the ranch, and met all the kids without parents.  We are showing compassion because we are going back to help them.

                I watched a little video about a fight on black Friday where three women were fighting over who knows what, but a person standing there was concerned enough to pull out a camera to film.  The most startling thing about the video was not the fighting itself, but the lack of action taken by those in the crowd of shoppers. 
                It is not that people did not have empathy.  I am sure there were people in the crowd who felt the same frustration as these women.  Some, may have even sided in their heads with the women they felt were in the right.  Empathy comes in bucket loads at times, but empathy is not enough.  How come no one stepped into stop the fight?  Empathy did not stop the fight; empathy just recorded and took in the pain.

                As followers of Jesus, we need to move past empathy and embrace compassion.  We can watch the news or hear about people’s pain and feel the prick of pain in our hearts.  But, God wanted a world where people acted.  He did not want people just to know about others pains, but He wanted people willing to partner with them to alleviate their suffering. 
                As I said in my last post, God commanded his people to respond in action, because He knows it is easier to have empathy than compassion.  He knows it is the human tendency to be spectators of the destruction going on in our world.  I hear people complain constantly about the state of our world, but what steps are we willing to take to show compassion to one person at a time. 

                In the story of Ruth, she is a widow and a foreigner.  She has been reduced to gleaning in fields to provide for her mother in-law.  She was gleaning in Boaz's field. Boaz could have happily let her pick through the passed over crops and known she had food to eat.  But he was moved with compassion and went beyond just empathy; he redeemed her and took her as his wife when her intended redeemer would not.  The whole story can be found in the book of Ruth in the Bible.
                I think some of you could argue that Boaz showed compassion by allowing Ruth to glean, but I think that would just be showing empathy.  It is kind of like saying we are showing compassion by paying taxes to help those on welfare.  Meeting needs out of moral or mandated obligation does not always mean weare being compassionate, but sometimes the opposite happens and we are resentful of these people who need help.  God wants our compassion to inspire us to invest in the lives of others.  Jesus called this type of compassion discipleship. 

Matthew 9:35-37

 Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few.
 

Matthew 28:19-20


 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
 
            In Matthew 9:35-37, Jesus feels the pain of his people and states his need for harvest workers.  His command to his Harvest workers is stated in Matthew 28:19-20.  According to Jesus, how do you show compassion? By making disciples! This is the kind of compassion God wants his people to show, it is beyond just the finacial obligation to care for fatherless (widows or foreigners).  It extends to how much we are willing to personally invest into the lives of people.  Jesus' discipleship meant personal investment.  If you want to gain more understanding, read the Gospels to see how Jesus invested in the lives of his disciples over the 3 years they were together.

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